Changes and Challenges

“The greatest mistake you can make in life is to be continually fearing you will make one.”— Elbert Hubbard (1856-1915)

Doughboy and I began our married life together living in the Fox River Valley of Wisconsin. Six months later, we were faced with a life change – accept a promotional opportunity with his employer that would take us to Chicago, or stay in Wisconsin and risk losing any future promotional opportunities. We jumped feet first into an uncertain future and ended up living happily in a western suburb of Chicago for 11 years. Sure, we had some bumps along the way. But we faced them together and grew stronger in our relationship as a result.

Over the years our comfortable life became stagnant and we tired of the mid-western winters. We discussed our options, but like most discussions, we didn’t actually put plans in motion to change. On a cold January Sunday, Jamie was searching through the classified section of the Chicago Tribune looking to make a change of her own. She spotted a career opportunity with an Atlanta based company that would cover all relocation costs and provide temporary housing. It sounded like the perfect opportunity for me and Georgia was one of our target destinations! Do I send a resume? Would they contact me? Was I prepared to uproot my family if I received an offer? I eventually sent my resume and was surprised to be interviewed by the CEO himself. Mr Big traveled to Chicago in mid February to interview seven candidates. I was his first interview. He didn’t give me any clues and I walked away from the interview thinking it didn’t go very well. Oh well…nothing ventured, nothing gained. Of the several hundred applicants, I was pleased to have been one of seven interviewees. I heard nothing again until late April. I was invited to travel to Atlanta to meet Mr. Big’s executive team and tour the facility. Again, I heard nothing after my visit until June. I was invited to travel to Minneapolis-St. Paul to interview with the newly hired VP, Human Resources. Over four months after my initial interview, I accepted a job offer – taking me 900 miles ALONE and away from everything comfortable to me – and began the next chapter in my life. That was nine years ago. Mr. Big didn’t last, but I did. After 32 years with the same employer, Doughboy joined me in Atlanta and started a new chapter in his career. He has been successfully and happily employed by a Pittsburgh based company for 8-1/2 years where he will undoubtedly stay until his retirement. Choosing to move closer to her Wisconsin family rather than move with us to Georgia, Jamie met and married the love of her life, Jason, and made a life-altering change when they moved to Atlanta 3-1/2 years ago. Learn more about Jamie and her family by visiting her blog "Our Crazy Life". A year ago brought tremendous change and upheaval for our daughter Kelly and her family. Visit Kelly’s blog "Half Dozen" to learn about their life-changing experience moving from Michigan to the west coast.

The point I attempt to make is that change is inevitable. You can either face the challenge head on, or sit back and allow life to pass you by. Either way, the experience has changed you. For every positive change, there are consequences and trade-offs. After 13 years of marriage, I made the gut-wrenching decision to make a new life for Jamie and me. Without that change, I wouldn’t have met and married Doughboy – my soul mate and love of my life for almost 2o years. But one decision, made wrong, would have left me without him. We quite literally met by chance. Someday I will write about it.

As we approach our ninth year living in Georgia, I can’t imagine ever living anywhere else. All the anxiety and uncertainty of moving here had vanished long ago. I hope that whatever challenges and changes are ahead of us, they are mild in comparison. Whatever the challenge, it won't be without the love and support of our family and friends. Because of their strength, we can handle anything. Isn’t life exciting?

I dedicate this post to Country Girl Kate who is facing a significant life change of her own. Best wishes and luck to you and your hubby, Kate!

Baby Girl Times 2

~~ TO MY GRANDDAUGHTER ~~

I'm looking at a miracle,

God sent to bring us pleasure;

Another chapter in life's book,

Bringing joy beyond all measure.

There's nothing like a grandchild,

Especially a little girl;

She wraps your heart with heartstrings,

And captivates your world.

She dances into your very soul,

All ruffles, dollies and lace;

You melt into a puddle,

With one look from that little face.

She wraps you 'round her finger,

And plays with you like a toy;

But that's the reason God gave her,

To bring her grandparents joy.

This heritage of our heritage,

This blessing all giggles and fun;

Was sent by God as a special gift,

Our precious little one.

Allison Chambers Coxsey

Before Doughboy and I met and married, I was a single mother of a beautiful girl. Not only was I fortunate to fall in love with the most wonderful man imagineable, I inherited a son, Chad and daughter, Kelly. Our girls are only six months apart in age. The girls grew up as sisters and confidants from the age of 11. That I didn't give birth to Kelly does not diminish the love I feel for her. She is just as much my daughter as Jamie. Kelly is now a happily married wife and mother of three, with another on the way. Her dad and I have anxiously waited for news of her ultrasound and to learn the gender of the child she carries. Selflessly, Kelly didn't tell us that we are expectant grandparents of a baby girl because she didn't want to "steal Jamie's thunder".

Our pleasure is indescribable! Our newest grandchildren, both girls, will be born mere weeks apart. Our only regret is that Kelly and her family live miles away on the east coast in San Diego. It would be our greatest dream come true to have the girls, Jamie and Kelly be close, and their families be near to us. We love you with all our heart, Kelly! Congratulations on the exciting news of another baby girl to add to your family of five. We are so very, very proud of you!

Visit Kelly's blog "Half Dozen" for more news about her family and our 7th grandchild (Jamie's third baby, scheduled to arrive a few weeks after Kelly's, will be our 8th grandchild).

Wind In Your Sails: Part V

On the third day of our adventure we left Cooper Island for beautiful Virgin Gorda. The BVI offers the most consistently ideal sailing conditions for sail charters. Trade winds blow on the norm from ten to twenty knots throughout most of the year. More important than wind speed is the wind direction. The wind blows almost constantly from the east down in the Virgin Islands. Sailing into the Sir Francis Drake Channel the wind will be blowing on your left ear as you look ahead. The Sir Francis Drake Channel is approx 9 miles long and 4 miles wide. Blocking the Atlantic Ocean is the island of Tortola, and shielding us from the Caribbean Sea swells are eleven other islands. This geography makes for perfect sailing conditions – a lively 2-3 foot chop and constant trade winds. It is very sunny here (about 85 degrees), but the winds keep it comfortable.

One of the most awesome sights to behold when sailing the British Virgin Islands are The Baths at the southern tip of Virgin Gorda. There are conflicting theories as to how these incredible rock formations came to be. Some say The Baths resulted from a meteor shower, others credit volcanic activity. There appears to be some evidence of lava flows which could have happened centuries after a meteor shower ... but what do I know? I’m not a geologist!


Okay, so The Baths are just a pile of "really big rocks" on a beach ... but when sailing up to them, you'll understand. They really are simply magnificent! Snorkeling is pretty good at The Baths too. There are marvelous Elkhorn coral formations and plenty of nooks and crannies to explore.
From the beach we followed the trail to the elegant but casual Top of the Baths restaurant whose open air verandah has magnificent panoramic views atop the hill. Fortified by a leisurely lunch we spent several hours exploring The Baths. Our next destination is the uninhabited Seal Dog Islands. To be continued…

A Lesson In Clouds

It is a typical summer day in the south – blistering hot temps in the mid 90s with suffocating humidity. The heat and humidity build throughout the day producing powerful summer storms. But not today. You have only to look up into the sky to try your luck at weather forecasting. Clouds give us a clue about what is going on in our atmosphere and how the weather might change in the hours or even days to come. Each type of cloud forms in a different way, and each brings its own kind of weather. Click here for a weather forcasting cloud chart.

Each evening when I come home from work, I give our plants and flowers a spritz of water while the pups sniff around the yard. The cicadas are audibly louder tonight as they cry for rain. The noise is deafening. Our black Scottish Terrier, Dianora, wilts in the heat while her canine counterparts high-tail to the cooler interior of the house. Wimps.

I watch the sky as clouds build and roll in the distant west. Stratocumulus clouds are low, puffy and gray. Most form in rows with blue sky visible in between them. Rain rarely occurs with stratocumulus clouds, however, they can turn into nimbostratus clouds. We need rain. But it looks like we won't get lucky tonight. Already the clouds have dissipated as the sun slowly sets in the west and the day loses its heat. Maybe tomorrow...

Why God Made Little Girls

God made the world with its towering trees

Majestic mountains and restless seas

Then paused and said, "It needs one more thing

Someone to laugh and dance and sing

To walk in the woods and gather flowers

To commune with nature in quiet hours"

So God made little girls

With laughing eyes and bouncing curls

With joyful hearts and infectious smiles

Enchanting ways and feminine wiles,

And when He'd completed the task He'd begun

He was pleased and proud of the job He'd done

For the world, when seen through a little girl's eyes

Greatly resembles Paradise.

Today my little girl's dreams came true. A baby girl will complete her family of five. Big brothers Ayden and Jameson will be their baby sister's protector and defender. Sweet baby girl, you are already loved more than you know. I can't wait to hold you! Click on Jamie's blog "Our Crazy Life" for the latest news on Baby Bean's progress.

Cattails

Cattails grow in marshes, swamps, ditches, and stagnant water—fresh or slightly brackish—worldwide. Finding them is a sure sign of water. The cattail’s every part has uses. It’s easy to harvest, very tasty, and highly nutritious. It was a major staple for the American Indians, who found it in such great supply, they didn’t need to cultivate it. The settlers missed out when they ignored this great food and destroyed its habitats, instead of cultivating it. Cattails and their associated microorganisms improve water and soil quality.

As a young girl, my mother went through a phase when she collected all kinds of weeds – mostly Queen Anne’s Lace, Mustard, Indian Pipes, and Silver Dollars – and dried them for use in floral arrangements. One particular time she trudged into a swampy area and cut cattails and brought them into the house to dry. If you have ever seen mature cattails, you would know that the soft brown stalk dries and turns to seed. My mother didn’t know this. Her cattails eventually dried and spewed seeds all over the house. It was a colossal mess! But, it was funny – very, very funny. She never brought cattails into the house again :)

This Needs No Words...

Photo taken August 28, 2007. I remember taking this picture. I took it because I didn't believe gas prices would ever get higher than this. Less than one year later, gas is $4.04 a gallon at our local RaceTrac. I have to leave now...to have a good cry...

After The Storms

The heavy rain-laden storm clouds have passed and a glorious blue sky emerges. With only a couple hours remaining of Doughboy's vacation, I begged to take a ride on the path. We are very fortunate to have 78 acres of green space around us and about 3 miles of paved paths winding in and out of the woods. Our grandchildren love to go for rides on the golf cart. It's not unusual to see a wide variety of birds, rabbits, and an occasional painted turtle or deer. But today was quiet. No children. Just us...and the birds and bugs. It was a nice change from the past few action filled days.

July 4th Traditions...Old and New

While I typically shy away from making our blog a diary, I can occasionally bend the rules since I am the author. As I write this, it is storming – a much welcome respite to Georgia’s continuing drought. It has been a quiet day – a winding down of a busy week and holiday weekend. Independence Day was our traditional family event consisting of swimming in our pool, taking a ride on the golf cart, and culminating with dinner. Every year we grill olive burgers and hot dogs, topped off by Jamie’s homemade potato salad and festive holiday dessert (see photo below).


Included below are a couple photos taken around our back yard and while on our golf cart ride.

This July 4th marked a momentous occasion. Our 3-year old grandson decided it was time to spend the night with his Mimi and Bumpa. We have asked Ayden for months about spending the night with us. Every time he said “not yet”. As he nears his 4th birthday, he declared himself big enough to spend the night away from Mom, Dad, and younger brother, Jameson. Ayden arrived with his little rolling Cars suitcase and never had a qualm about saying goodbye to his family. After a bubble bath in Mimi’s spa tub, he snuggled on my lap as we watched a movie of his choosing. We lit sparklers (another first for Ayden) at dusk. He asked to go to bed around 10:00pm and went straight to the top bunk bed and we never heard from him again until morning. We ate breakfast together, and acting very much like a future politician, he declared my scrambled eggs as the “best eggs ever!”. We experienced another first with Ayden – we went to a move theater to see Kung Fu Panda. He settled in with his popcorn snack and did quite well until about 20 minutes from the end of the movie. With a promise to take him on a golf cart ride if he behaved, he sat on my lap until the movie ended. As promised, we allowed Ayden to ride his new hot wheel bike on the cart path while Bumpa and I drove at a safe distance behind. His little legs were working overtime. Each time I asked him if he wanted a ride on the golf cart, he would hold up his hand and declare, “I can do this”. We had to give him tons of credit for his tenacity. As Ayden struggled up a hill, I could hear him talking to himself… “I’m a hard working man…I can do this!” I was so proud of him! He never faltered or gave up. What a big boy. I’m sure this is a first of many more sleepovers. I remember the days when I was a young girl and begged to stay with my grandmother. Someday Ayden will have the same sweet memories of his grandparents. Another family tradition continues…

The World Through My Eyes

Beauty is in the eye of the photographer. Never has this had more meaning to me than today. Walking along the path at Madison Park, I was struck by all the wonderful details that the average eye would overlook. Then it hit me. My camera lens has become my eyes!

The camera lens is an invention that attempts to duplicate the operation of the human eye. Just like the eye, the lens sees an image, focuses it, and transmits its colors, sharpness, and brightness through the camera to the photographic film, which, like our memory, records the image for processing and future use. After a lifetime of viewing the beautiful world around me, I began recording it through the lens of my camera. I use Photoshop as sparingly as possible, adjusting levels, brightness, color balance, and contrast only to bring out the actual image I saw at the time of the shoot.

Walking slowly, I scan the path to the left, then right, and up, and down. Sometimes I use my lens to “see” details I would otherwise miss. All my senses are on high alert. I listen carefully – the buzz of bees, hum of beating dragonfly wings, sweet sound of a song bird, splash of water as a fish jumps in the pond – with my camera always ready. I quickly alternate between my two cameras – a Nikon D200 with a 105mm macro lens and Nikon D300 with a 300mm zoom lens – depending on the detail I want to capture. Arriving home from work, I was excited to tell Doughboy about all the wonderful sights I photographed today. He responded with an unenthusiastic, "Oh let me guess. More butterflies, dragonflies, and flowers". Well, yes. But they are different. Everytime I see a miracle of nature, whether I've seen it once or 100 times, I get excited. So my response was, "If you don't want to see more butterflies, dragonflies, and flowers, then don't open the Flickr link". So there.

Whether or not you are a photographer, view the world around you as if you were looking through a camera lens. You’ll be amazed by all the detail!

Click on the photo below to view a slide show of today's treasures. Enjoy!

P.S. Welcome to all the new visitors to our blog and for your kind comments. I hope you enjoy the time you spend here and choose to return often. I especially want to thank my new friends, Kate and Janette for their encouragement and inspiration. Both are accomplished photographers with an eye for the unique. If you haven't already done so, please visit their blogs to see their talent for yourself. Happy Canada Day, Janette!